Father misses his daughter’s wedding to walk his STEPDAUGHTER down the aisle after the ceremonies were held the same weekend in different states
- The father anonymously shared his story on Reddit, explaining that he tried to make both weddings but ended up failing his biological daughter
- He said his stepdaughter’s wedding was held on a Saturday while his daughter’s ceremony was on Sunday in another state that was a 13-hour drive away
- After attending his stepdaughter’s wedding, he drove all night to make it to his daughter’s ceremony, but he got lost and ended up missing most of it
- The dad said his daughter, who’s always accused him of favoring her stepsister, had to have her stepfather walk her down the aisle
- To try to make it up to his daughter, he gifted her a trip to Japan with her new husband, but she refuses to forgive him
A man has revealed that his daughter won’t talk to him after he missed most of her wedding because he wanted to walk his stepdaughter down the aisle on her big day.
The dad anonymously shared his story on Reddit‘s ‘Am I the A**hole‘ forum, explaining that his biological daughter had to have her stepfather walk her down the aisle because he wasn’t there.
‘My daughter has always been resentful of my stepdaughter and growing up, we’ve had to deal with a lot of issues related to this resentment,’ he admitted, though he insisted there wasn’t any favoritism on his part.
Family drama: A father has revealed on Reddit that he missed his biological daughter’s wedding to walk his stepdaughter down the aisle on her big day (Stock Image)
He said he has treated his stepdaughter like she was his own child since she was two because her biological father had passed away. He noted he had shared custody of his daughter with his ex and he saw her less than his stepdaughter because of that.
‘I love them both equally and I’ve never shown preferential treatment towards my stepdaughter, something my daughter always accuses me of,’ he insisted.
According to the dad, the problems arose when his stepdaughter sent out a save the date for her Saturday wedding in September 2019.
‘My daughter immediately called me, furious and accusing her stepsister of deliberately planning her wedding the day before hers,’ he recounted. ‘My daughter sent her own save the date a week later for the Sunday on that same weekend.’
His stepdaughter claimed it was ‘pure coincidence,’ saying she doesn’t even talk to her stepsister because they’ve never gotten along.
The make matters worse, his daughter’s ceremony was a 13-hour drive away in another state, and they both wanted him to walk them down the aisle.
While his entire extended family chose to attend his daughter’s wedding, he thought he could do both.
Opinions: Many Reddit users agreed that he handled the situation poorly, with some saying it’s clear to them that he favors his stepdaughter.
‘I did the math and I calculated that if I left my stepdaughter’s wedding at 10 pm and drove through the night, I’d make it with two hours to freshen up and get ready,’ he explained.
‘Unfortunately, I got lost along the way plus traffic and I missed the actual wedding ceremony. My daughter’s stepfather ended up walking her down the aisle by himself.
‘I feel like I tried my best to make both my children happy but I failed one of them completely.’
The situation had led to an all-out war with his children. His daughter’s friends even went as far as attacking his stepdaughter and new husband on Facebook, claiming she planned this on purpose.
‘When I tried to clear up the situation I was completely shut down,’ he admitted. ‘I gave my daughter and son-in-law an additional gift of money to go to Japan, which has always been their dream.’
The dad said the large amount he spent on the trip, which was postponed due to COVD-19, was his way of asking forgiveness, but his daughter isn’t having it.
The few times she picks up my calls always ends with her bringing up the wedding and getting angry at me again,’ he said, adding that a few family members told him he was an ‘a**hole’ for not prioritizing his biological daughter’s wedding.
Many Reddit users agreed that he handled the situation poorly, with some saying it’s clear to them that he favors his stepdaughter.
‘The reason why she isn’t satisfied is because she never wanted the money or expensive gifts she just wanted her dad,’ one person explained. ‘I feel like this was a pattern for her growing up. I know it was beyond your control and you say there was no favoritism. It probably came off that way.’
‘The truth is OP does love his stepdaughter more,’ another added. ‘Because he raised her more and was around her more. But he won’t even admit that to himself, and instead dismisses the hurt that causes his bio daughter as invented or in her head.’